10 tips to stay calm in difficult times

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Stay calm in bitter moments is a rare quality. This art is difficult to apply even by the most experienced. Therefore, it is necessary to be aware of the tips that could change the circumstances of the crisis and ease it. Read more.

Maintaining a balance when the situation seems to have no solution is the best strategy to find a way out. Calm is crucial at these times! 

Calm is necessary to handle bad situations, such as discovering that someone you love is sick (or even yourself), when you lose a flight, during a traffic jam, your cell’s battery is dead when you most need it, or after being fool due to an Internet scam, and many other setbacks no one desires.    

Therefore, remaining positive is the best start to control an undesired event. 

On the other hand, having a negative attitude in a difficult moment may trigger a kind of snowball and things may get worse. Being confident in your ability to slay whatever dragon lies ahead is the best way to reach calmness.

Roughly speaking, nobody is immune to bad moments. The most negativist will say that "preaching, in theory, is easy, the hardest part is applying it in practice".

Still, it is fundamental to be aware that there are "ways out" to face any situation against your will. You just have to calm down. Follow these tips and everything gets easier to be resolved.

10 tips to stay calm:

1 - Breathing


When a situation becomes unbearable, close your eyes. Take a deep breath and hold it. Exhale slowly and rhythmically. Count to ten while following this rhythm. Neuroscientists claim that rhythmic breathing involves different parts of the brain. In other words, breathing in rhythm activates the hypothalamus, which releases neurohormones, helping to inhibit stress-producing hormones. The immediate response is the relaxation of the body. 

2 - Silence


Keeping yourself in deep silence means you are in “peace profound” like classical meditation. It turns out to be the appropriate moment to detach from the external world. Timely introversion can avoid making hasty decisions, natural during delicate situations in life. 

3 - Connection

Connecting with the Universe in difficult times is the best medicine to get back on track. Some people drink coffee to calm down. Caffeine will only further stimulate the areas of your brain that are causing you to feel overwhelmed. A way to facilitate connection is to focus on something. For instance, staring firmly at the front of your index finger. At that point, start analyzing the lines on your finger. This might balance you for an important while.

4 - Perspectives

Changes in the way you look at something may switch during difficult times. People tend to regret what they have done or failed to do. If you are calm, you will change your perspective with no regrets. Do recognize that you have acted wrongly in dealing with some problems. Analyze the situation by listing the pros and cons of the moment. What will be the most sensible decision to make? Calmly, you get the most coherent information.

5 - Isolation

Few may agree with this tip. However, it can be healthier if taking a break from social media. Of course, some feel safer sharing their problem virtually or asking followers for prayers. It’s fair, but not ideal. Getting too caught up in social media at these times can distract from your focus, as well as cause a kind of mental exhaustion. This is the time you need to save your energy to act firmly in order to acquire the necessary calmness.  

6 - Reading

In moments of crisis, nothing is more soothing than picking up a book to read. A reading with a theme appropriate to the moment would be even more effective. It has been scientifically proven that reading releases endorphins, alleviating tension in moods. This "escape from reality" can be very beneficial to pull yourself together and act calmly and rationally in a difficult situation. 

7 - Friend

Although so-called "toxic positivity" is a real and unpleasant phenomenon, you can never have too much of a shoulder to lean on in bad times. Talking to someone you trust is indispensable to keep your morale up. This sense of security is very welcome because it can provide the calm to act with the necessary firmness during turbulence.

8 - Gratitude

Nowadays, it is common to give thanks by expressing your feeling of gratitude for everything you have and have received, with no room for complaint, because the old saying that "every cloud has a silver lining" will always serve - in one way or another - as a consolation. Taking the time to give thanks for the privileges received in difficult times eases any pain. Therefore, it is advisable to be aware of the benefits that the situation may bring to your life in the future.

9 - Learning

Balance during a lifetime is an essential attitude mostly in its crucial moments. If you lose your temper, you can fall and the consequences might be worse. In fact, no matter how bad the issue is, it will always serve as learning. The important thing is to know how to absorb wisely the problems because they will always be temporary. Some take them with anger, but others have the serenity to learn from them and move on. Try to imagine that what happened to you might generate a positive event (just like the “Butterfly Effect”). So never forget the logic of wise mother nature: "After every storm, there comes some kind of calmness in the weather".

10 – Self-esteem

It is common, in times of crisis, to forget your strengths and underestimate yourself. This is the moment of victimization. If you are calm enough, you will have time to praise your strengths and use them. If you are aware of your real powers, you will have self-confidence that any problem can be circumvented and controlled.  So go for it. Yes, you can!


The ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance at any stage of life. Controlling emotions will only be possible if the mind is fresh and not overwhelmed because of some issues. Therefore, calm is synonymous with serenity. When you are at ease you can think straight and wisely.

Having wisdom at any time shows you the tools to act during the most delicate moments of life. The best line is to remember that "not everything is as bad as it seems.". The opposite equally makes sense, i.e.,  "not everything that glitters is gold”. In other words, both extremely low mood and exaggerated euphoria are negative emotions. That is why being calm in any moment of excitement, up or down, is fundamental. 

Once the turbulence has gone, there is nothing better than to press the "Reset" button and turn the page, because life goes on. Time to "resignify" and apply the lessons you have received from what you’ve passed through. Now, take a deep breath and be thankful for the chance you had to evolve!

By Marco Veado - THINK GREEN